June Senior Stuff

Posted: June 1, 2011 in Entertainment and Activities, Senior Stuff

DeLand Senior Stuff Vol IV Issue IV

Zany Rock and Roll Musical

Sands Theater Company will kick off the

 2011-2011 Season with

June 17 – July 3, 2011

Book by Howard Ashman, Music by Alan Menken,

Lyrics by Howard Ashman Based on the film by Roger Corman

A floral assistant becomes an overnight sensation when he discovers an exotic plant with a mysterious craving for fresh blood. Audrey grows into an ill-tempered, R&B-singing carnivore with a hidden agenda.

Elder Abuse Prevention Theme for June

What Do You See?

What do you see, nurses, what do you see,
What are you thinking when you’re looking at me?
A crabby old woman, not very wise,
uncertain of habit, with faraway eyes.
Who dribbles her food and makes no reply
when you say in a loud voice, “I do wish you’d try?”
Who seems not to notice the things that you do,
and forever is losing a stocking or shoe.
Who, resisting or not, lets you do as you will
with bathing and feeding, the long day to fill.
Is that what you’re thinking? Is that what you see?
then open your eyes, nurse, you’re not looking at me.
I’ll tell you who I am as I sit here so still,
as I use at your bidding, as I eat at your will.
I’m a small child of ten with a father and mother,
brothers and sisters, who love one another.
A young girl of sixteen, with wings on her feet,
dreaming that soon now a lover she’ll meet.
A bride soon at twenty-my heart gives a leap,
remembering the vows that I promised to keep.
At twenty-five now, I have young of my own
who need me to guide, and a secure happy home.
A woman of thirty, my young now grown fast,
bound to each other with ties that should last.
At forty my young sons have grown and are gone,
but my man’s beside me to see I don’t mourn.
At fifty once more babies play ‘round my knee
again we know children my loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead;
I look at the future, I shudder with dread. . .
For my young are all rearing young of their own
and I think of the years,
and the love that I’ve known.
I’m now an old woman and nature is cruel,
‘tis jest to make old age look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles, grace and vigor depart,
there is now a stone where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass a young girl still dwells,
and now and again my battered heart swells.
I remember the joys, I remember the pain,
and I’m loving and living life over again.
I think of the years; all too few, gone too fast,
and accept the stark fact that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, nurses, open, and see,
not a crabby old woman; look closer – see ME!!
This anonymous poem has been attributed to
several sources. It is generally described as
having been found among the possessions of an
older woman who died in a geriatric ward of a

In the U.S., 36 % of nursing home staff
reported having witnessed at least one

incident of physical abuse of a patient in the
previous year.



Mark your calendars! The International Network for the Prevention Abuse (INPEA) has announced the 5th Annual World Elder Abuse Awareness Day (WEAAD) will be held on June 15. The world will make proclamations designed to raise awareness of elder abuse.

 Since the first Awareness Day, organizations and governments from every continent in the world have been actively involved. The day is in support of the United Nations International Plan of Action, which recognizes the significance of elder abuse as a public health and human rights issue.

Locally, in an effort to generate awareness of this problem, area residents are asked to participate in the worldwide event by discussing abuse issues with others.

DeLand health care providers are urged to engage each other and seniors with whom they come into contact regarding these issues.

Some Common Myths About Elder Abuse

  • Abuse and neglect of elders is rare.
  • Abuse in later life only happens to people who are very frail.
  • Some cultures are immune to abuse; they always respect their older members.
  • Mistreatment in later life only happens to older women, older people who are isolated and older people with disabilities.
  • Sometimes an older person “chooses’ to be abused or neglected by staying in an abusive relationship.
  • Most abuse of older adults involves physical abuse.

10% of nursing home staff admitted
they had committed at least one act of
physical abuse, and 40% admitted they
had psychologically abused patients

In the U.S., 36 % of nursing home staff
reported having witnessed at least one
incident of physical abuse of a patient in the
previous year.

Nursing Home Watchdogs Under Attack by Gov. Scott?

The “Long-term Care Ombudsman Program,” the federally mandated program designed to assure quality care and prevent elder abuse for nursing home residents, is under assault here in Florida, according to critics.

 When the state chairwoman of the program, who was responsible for overseeing its roughly 300 volunteers, objected, she was fired, and a notice went out forbidding anyone involved in the program from talking to the press. (Does this indicate something to hide?)

As a result, the Federal Administration on Aging has launched an investigation.

Finally, Scott spokesman Lane Wright said the following:

“It is vital that we have someone in that role committed to the agency’s core mission of caring for some of Florida’s most vulnerable, while also protecting Florida tax payers.”

Anybody want to bet that last clause is part of the “core mission” of the ombudsman program? Something to think about while we contemplate World Elder Abuse Awareness Day, huh?

What exactly is the field in which Gov. Scott has influence and makes money? Who and what would profit by wholesale loosening of restraints to eliminate elder abuse?


Thoughts from Inez Bracy

What Is Your Backstory?

You know the story you tell yourself every time you fall short of your own expectations. The story you tell yourself when you start to feel resentful because you said yes to something you really wanted to say no to. The story you tell yourself when no one is looking.

I watched a movie last night, Love Happens, about a motivational speaker and author who was very good at helping others but had not faced his own backstory. Not to give the plot away, the whole movie revolves around a dog in the road and a rainy night.

What is your dog in the road, the story that you so freely tell about your rainy night experiences? The story that everyone can relate to and offer you the sympathy you seek. BUT are you admitting and telling the backstory of the dog in the road, the story that keeps you up at night that makes you your own caricature.

 You must release the backstory if you desire to have a fulfilled, joyful, happy life.

Langston Hughes writes in Dream Deferred:

What happens to a dream deferred?
Does it dry up
Like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore–
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over–
like a syrupy sweet?
Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.
Or does it explode?
You have choices; you don’t have to explode!


DeLand MainStreet Celebrates 9 Years
Celebrate the MainStreet DeLand Association’s 26th birthday at a summertime block party featuring a giant cake, music, dancing in the street,a dunk tank, fire hose spray, shopping, dining & fun. FREE admission. 4pm- 8pm. West Indiana Ave., Downtown DeLand. 386-738-0649. Location: West Indiana Ave., Downtown DeLand, FL

4th Fridays in Artisan Alley & DeLand Art Walk
6:00 PM – 9:00 PM Jun 24, 2011 Meet your friends at Artisan Alley every 4th Friday of the month! Enjoy music as well as food, drinks, arts, crafts and more for purchase. Sponsored by the Nest. Located off New York Avenue, one block west of Woodland Blvd behind the Beacon Newspaper. Free admission! 6 – 9 p.m. For more information, call Rob at 386-450-0200 or email mynest@earthlink.net. www.lovemynest.com The 4TH Friday DeLand Art Walk will have18 venues hosting the art of Central Florida artists: Museum of Florida Art- opening at 5:00, then Art Walk 6-9

Public Library Book Sale
If you have room in the June issue, please include the Friends of DeLand Public Library Book Sale: Thursday, June 9, 3-7:15 pm at pre-sale prices; Friday, June 10, 9:30 to 5 pm; Saturday, June 11, 9:30 to 3 pm. At 2 pm, a bag of books may be purchased for $2. (I did!)

 “Low Vision” Seminar
Woodland Towers 113 W. Chipola Ave, Deland Fl. on June 22 from 2-3 pm. Call 386-738-2700 and ask for Rita or Dorothy in Marketing to RSVP. (I can do that)

The City of DeLand Senior Council is responsible for creating this Stuff on a monthly basis. Council members include:
Deborah Tolan, Chair
Virginia Comella
Vivien Powis, Vice Chair
Bob Goodwill
Jack Allen
George Sherman
Ron Burgher, Editor
Jennifer Wilder
ex officio members:
Robin Carter, Recording Secretary
Michael Pleus
Nan Smith, volunteer,  former council member

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